Psalm 27:13-14
13 I would have lost heart, unless I had believed That I would see the goodness of the Lord In the land of the living.
13 I would have lost heart, unless I had believed That I would see the goodness of the Lord In the land of the living.
Healing from sexual abuse can take a lifetime. The severity of the abuse, frequency, and type affects the long term outcomes. Even, when you have forgiven you may still have some issues that come or long term effects. So, forgiveness is necessary but not always the only solution.
For example, for me if someone is forcing themselves on me consistently to show them affection, I have felt anxiety and sometimes sadness. I never knew this was a trigger for me until later in life. I had to start paying attention to what triggered me so that I could start setting healthy boundaries. Triggers often create the feeling of lack of control over one’s own body or life, that what you say doesn’t matter. The control I have over that is being careful of my environment and how I respond at that time. For some, it may be that certain smells of situations that trigger a memory or a feeling and they have to work through that so that it doesn’t destroy their whole perspective. Having memories or triggers doesn’t mean forgiveness hasn’t been granted.
There is some power in sharing your story with others. You do not have to share explicit details or details you are not comfortable with sharing with others in order to share how you overcame. You can simply share how you overcame a trial. Sometimes we may think “but I haven’t been perfected yet, how can I share my story?” If you are still here after abuse, God has given you the grace to survive and overcome. We will never be perfect on this side. But as you grow and heal you will learn new truths to apply to your life that will help you take another step forward. Of course, it’s important in knowing your audience, taking into consideration age and maturity when sharing specific details of your story.
Relationships can be a place with more abuse or control when you have not dealt with past sexual abuse. This can be minimized or eliminated by addressing two main lies “I am worthless, I am unloved.”